How do I explain a 16 month old toddler that
- He will not have his most favorite person come and pick him up from bed every morning.
- His job of putting milk cas in recycle bin has been made redundant as his co-worker has gone.
- His 24 hour playmate has work to do and hence has left him.
- His partner in crime wont be part of his pranks anymore.
- His TV companion wont be back to recite rhymes with him.
- He will not get any more leg massages.
- He will not be able to hear bhajans or rhymes to drift to sleep.
My father adorned many more such roles in his life for past 6 months.
He was with VK from morning to night, all day everyday.
He left to India on Sunday.
We tried telling VK about it...but I don’t know how much he understood.
He was playing in the airport and didn’t realize anything when we came back.
Yesterday was the D-Day that we dreaded.
We didn’t know what to expect… but we were ready for the worst.
We expected tears and tantrums. But he proved he was way ahead of his years through his stoic silence.
He hid his emotions and acted as if everything was normal through the day...but all through the night he kept mumbling “Thatha…. Thatha”.
Last night we were chatting on the internet with Appa and VK refused to even acknowledge him.
When finally appa said Bye... he immediately looked at the computer screen.
Then in about a minute he came to me and started to cry…It was truly heart-breaking!!
Moments like these, make me wonder if I am selfish.
Just for a comfortable life, am I depriving my son of the love of his grandparents???
6 comments:
Honestly! I don't know what to tell. at times, we're. But it's glad that he knew what the love of a grand-parent is. In today's world, many children are deprived the warmth of gran parent love and a childhood with them. Make sure that he spends time with them at very while possible
VJ, Do not go down that road. People will always be in and out of our lives - VK will eventually make peace with this concept - as all of us have done.
I know how you must be feeling and at times we do feel we are depriving our child of some precious moments in life.
But as Nitya said,Vk will certainly make peace of the fact that his thaatha is not there with him and cant be there with him always.
I can only imagine how difficult it must be for your father to stay away from VK after being literally inseparable for this long.
Dont worry,Vk will come over it fast.
Hey,you've been tagged..yet again.Take your time.No hurries:)
He will learn to live with it.. my son has adjusted to it.. and is very philosophical about it... so there!! :) They soon have a thing or 2 to teach us!!
@The Seeker: very true.. I am glad he could spend sometime with them.
@ Nitya: I keep saying, nope My thoughts arent right and everything will be fine soon... but there are some days when you cant make peace.
@Deeps:VK is actually kind a settling in now.. Yes.. my Dad misses him so much !!! words cant explain !!
Shall do the tag very soon.
@Preethi:
firstly.. thanks for passing by my blog and also for the soothing words.
Its very strange that kids adjust to change so easily while we adults find it too hard to accept.
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